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YOU Are Important – YOUR MARRIAGE is Important!

When I saw the post about needing bloggers for Outnumbered Mama’s, I thought to myself, I would love to blog about my life, my family and have somewhere to vent. So I contacted them and agreed to participate. I have wrote two blogs so far and they came easy. Then life became chaotic and I have sat down 30 times to write my next one and came up blank.

Over the past two months I have dealt a lot and enjoyed a lot. All of which I would love to blog about. Then I sit down to write and not sure what to write or how to write it. From dealing with a bullying situation with my son and bonus son, which in turn has caused behavior issues at school for my son, to dealing with an ex-husband who has a substance abuse and legal problems, learning how to be a mom and a stepmom in the same house and where to draw the line, the list goes on. My life has its ups and downs, it’s chaotic and busy but it’s my life. I am learning to embrace the good with the bad, the chaotic vs. the calm. Some days I feel like I got this, other days I would prefer my bed and blankets and just a nap. Originally, I had decided to write a blog about dealing with a child whose parent is addicted to drugs. But I realized I am not really ready to. It’s a sore spot for me, especially witnessing the pain it is causing my children. Then I was going to write a blog about “momming/stepmomming” and what my place is, but I am still learning so I will come back to that later. Now what? My life literally consists of being a mom, being a step mom, sports and work. Then I got to thinking, where is my “me” time? Where is my time with my husband? (We are newlyweds, so I still like him most days ha-ha).

So I decided, why not blog about “me” time and “couple time”. It’s important. When you’re a parent the luxury of “couple time” or “me” time tends to disappear over time as life evolves. Getting enough couple time builds intimacy, opens communication and strengthens your bond, which in turn strengthens your marriage. Plus, it provides your kids with a good example for their own future relationships. Once a month, once a week, whatever your preference is. Having me time helps you reset, gives you a ‘break’, and let’s face it helps you keep your SANITY! Don’t feel bad or guilty for making you or your spouse a priority. You are the glue of the family and it’s important to remember that.

Here are some great options for “me” time:

  • Close the bathroom door, grab a book or turn some music on and take a bath.
  • Go to the gym.
  • Go for a drive.
  • Start a hobby (i.e. scrap-booking, blogging).
  • Go for a walk.
  • Spend time with your friends.

The list goes on, find something you enjoy and spend some time just focusing on you. After all, YOU ARE JUST AS IMPORTANT. YOUR SANITY IS IMPORTANT!

Here are some great options for spouse time:

  • Watch a TV show together
  • Take walks together
  • Go to the gym together
  • Take a weekend, impromptu trip.
  • Go out to dinner

The quality time spent with your significant other does not have to be complicated or expensive. It gives you and your significant other an opportunity to stay connected, reset and strengthen your bond. After all, you are the reasons for the family. The amount of quality time does not always matter, as long as your make it a priority.

 

By Nicolette Geigle

Nicolette Geigle is a 31 years old wife, mother of four (two biological and two bonus), and works full time as a probation officer for Macomb County Juvenile Court. She resides in Harrison Township, MI. She was recently married to her soulmate on August 17, 2019. Combining households has taught her the struggles and blessings of a blended family. The girls are 14 & 15 and the boys are both 10. So basically she has two sets of twins and loves every single second of it (even when she is ready to pull her hair out). She loves to spend time with her family, read, stay organized, and inspire others to live life to the fullest; while letting them know that not everything is always perfect. Weekdays are typically spent juggling homework, running kids to practice and trying to keep the house organized (with four kids and what her kids say is OCD, this is quite the task). On the weekends, you can typically find her watching her daughter dance at the high school games, watching her sons playing some sort of sport or spending time with her family. Nicolette became a mom 8 days shy of her 16th birthday but still graduated high school with honors despite the struggles of being a teen mom. She went on to graduate college and receive her Bachelor’s Degree in Criminal Justice and work her way up the ladder to earn her dream job of being a probation officer. During that time she married, had an amazing son, went through many struggles and got a divorce. She then met the love of her life and got married again. Life for her has not always been easy, but she has never given up. She uses her struggles and accomplishments to help her clients achieve their goals and hopes to do the same for others through her writing. You can contact her at the links below. She would love to say hi!

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